My hair likes the "jelly" products, gelatinous consistency, no chemicals. There are several in my signature. I do use leave in AND/OR curl enhancer under the jelly product (depending on the dew point.)
My hair is low porosity, so it takes a while for it to absorb product--but then it's usually soft and bouncy. I may have to scrunch a little to remove it from my scalp. I go from the underside and move my fingers through gently.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me