I don't know what products (if any) or methods you use but I find using mousse rather than gel helps (gel makes my curls thin and stringy) and also diffusing when my hair is about 3/4 dry. This tends to result in a bit more frizz than I like (frizz is the bane of my hair life!) but it makes it look like my hair is a bit thicker.
I do agree with the others though - you would suit a pixie cut, no problem.
3b in South Australia.