Yea I understand. I only have one male friend like that that's almost truly platonic. The rest are friends but not platonic enough to keep as friends now that I have a bf. One of my coworkers has made a lot of friends too from a dating site that he still keeps in touch with (he's gay if that even matters).
My ex always needed female friendships/contacts and me being the jealous type, that didn't work out very well. But many people are okay with it.
Even if you are repulsed by him, doesn't mean he isn't by you! But that's not your problem. Just sounded by the whole poetry and video thing, I don't know if he's the type that can even pretend to scale back to a friendship, but you can try!
Goddess - how is your guy doing??