I not only color my hair, but I permanently straighten it ( it is pretty damaged.) What helps me the most is henna...it really keeps my hair strong and younger looking. I don't know if your mom would be interested, but there are different henna mixtures beyond red. You have to use a quality body henna though, and I highly recommend hennaforhair.com. Justforredheads.com also has a decent selection. Good luck!
2a/b. I love AOHR!