Shelly, your hair sounds EXACTLY like mine. I may just have to try the FFVF. It's on sale at Amazon today, so I'm having trouble resisting.
As to the original question, I too struggled with re:coil. At first I used way too much. You need very little, but I think it's just a tempermental product that does not work for everyone. I had to swap it away.
2b/c wavy modified CG since July 2012
medium texture, normal porosity, normal elasticity
hair likes protein, doesn't like oils, easily OC'd
low poo: JCHCC, CJGCS
RO/co-wash/LI: YTCarrots, DB Pumpkin Seed
stylers: a bunch of stylers that are all pretty much the same (KCCC, UFDCM, CRCM, CKCJ) or ArcAngel if I need more hold
DT/PT: CJRM, CNPF