Yes, Rosewenthe, I did read the other posts, and while some did say the father was wrong, others advised placating behaviors, including that she should present dad with "research" about healthy hair. I am sorry but I dont think that is appropriate advise, nor do I think that is appropriate assertive behavior. Young people need to learn appropriate assertive behavior to be able to cope in life. I would feel a lot better if she had been told, Dad, I am sorry, but it is my hair, and I must stand firm on this, and if that mean I dont get my permit, then I will need to speak with the school counselor so that I can get more help with this issue.