Totally agree with the recommendation for protein. It's all about getting the moisture/protein balance right.
It's really helpful to know your hair properties to determine ingredients/products to use. Here's a link to help Live Curly Live Free - Curly Hair Basics
Once you determine your hair properties, you can look for folks with hair like yours and see what they use (in signatures.)
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; DM MiraCurls Curling Gelly; UFD Curly Magic; Shescentit LIs; Sevi conditioners; Botanical Spirits Puree, CJ Repair Me