My hair prefers the more natural products from the online, boutique type companies. I stay away from chemicals (my hair just doesn't like them.) I think that a lot of products that I use would work for you. I use minute amounts of really rich products followed by a jelly (gelatinous consistency, no chemicals.) When hair is totally dry, you can scrunch it to eliminate the "crunch" or producty look.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08

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HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic (now Hello Curly Curl Stimulater); Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix and CCCC