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Old 12-07-2012, 08:03 PM   #42
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I'm responding to the earlier comment: something like having a baby will throw even the best couples into a mealstrom or something.
Spidey, I never said anything like that. Here's what I wrote in my initial post on this subject:
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]In abusive relationships, pregnancy and childbirth tend to trigger even worse abuse. The abuser feels threatened by the fetus/baby, viewing it as a rival for the mother's love and attention.
So, I was talking about relationships in which abuse was already ongoing.

As coilynapp has pointed out, pregnancy is statistically a dangerous time for abused women. There is also a great deal of research on causation. These studies show that (a) many abusers behave more abusively in direct response to pregnancy, and (b) they do so because they perceive it as a challenge to their control over, and access to, their victims.
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