It can take a while to get used to being silicone free. Finding the right products isn't easy. My hair gets the kind of frizz you describe if I've got build-up. Have you done a sulfate wash to make sure there are no silicones lurking in your hair? I love the SheaMoisture line of products. I just need to be careful not to over do them. They are pretty rich and too much can get me overconditioned and weighed down.
3B, fine, normal to low porosity
Modified CG since June 2010
HGs: FSG, anything with glycerin, Tresemme Naturals conditioner, Curls Like Us cloths, satin pillowcases.