I feel ya! I've had to learn the hard way. I posted my current process. Hope this helps.
3b to 4a?
Pre-Poo:Conditioner & Avocado Oil or Jamaican Black Caster Oil or Coconut Oil
Co-wash - One Hair for Dry Hair
Moisturize - Coco curls or beija flore creme brulee
Leave In - Shea Moisture Enhancing Smoothie
Gel - Kinky Curly Custard, Deva Spray Gel
Seal ends - Castor Oil
Deep Conditioner - Moroccan Oil Deep Conditioner or Caster Oil & Coconut Oil
Last Relaxer May 2006