I wish I could Honeycurls, though I like your theory on attracting a mate.
Mine does the same. One wash day it is great, and it holds up well for 2 to 3 days but the next it is heavy and blah. I use the same products every time as well and today my hair seems heavy even though I used less product than normal. I personally think my hair enjoys messing with my mind.
**either that or it's in a state of shock today from the drop in temperature :-/
PS- Check your dryer, please. The last thing you need is to be attacked by a flying ball of fire.