my hair hates gel ive tried a few types and have tried it differently to make it work and on clean and dirty hair but my hair just hates it. it gets really stringing and strawy and looses curl

my hair: 3b, high porosity, high density and coarse hair (i think i finally figured that all out)
my hair loves conditioner only styling!
Oils and my own procuts are my hairs best friend
my hair goal length is bra strap length when curly.