Hey Tecia! Take a deeeeeep breath lol let me see if I can help:
1) There aren't strict rules to growing out your hair. If you don't like short hair on you, then that's fine! You can grow out your hair with weaves and braids no problem. Whatever works for you.
2) creme of nature: I've never used it, but look at the reviews on it to decide for yourself --> Product Search Results
3) I can only speak for my personal favorite deep conditioners, because everyone's hair is different. One of my favorites is Mixed Chicks deep conditioner. Some people also make their own deep conditioners >> http://www.naturallycurly.com/recipes/search?shows=50&recipe_type=15
Taking care of your curls will be a trial and error process. Some products that people rave about, my hair just hates! lol so the most we can all offer is suggestions
and our personal experiences.
Creating a hair regimen is a start >> Healthy Hair Regimen for Curly Hair
Look through the "Start Here" thread to find lots of info that new naturals usually need >> Start Here!
Hope that helped! I shy away from suggesting specific products because everyone's hair is different. But hopefully those existing threads will give you some ideas.
I saw your other post!! lemme head over there and answer you