I understand. My hair tangles all the time. I snip out knots and split ends everyday. I feel guilty every time I manipulate it. But sometimes I just have to put my hair away in a bun or style that involves low to no manipulation and just go about life, not thinking about it.
I find when I get ready to handle it, I'm more loving and accepting of its imperfections.
3c front crown,4a in middle back
LOIS: OS, thin, dense, cottony