I think it's pretty obvious that these comments are intended to hurt. I never said in every case. There may very well be situations where a person is concerned and would tell a black mother the same thing. However, I hear of situations all the time where white mothers are told how to do their black child's hair, but at least around this area, I never hear anyone complain about a 2 or 3 year old having her hair braided up in extensions or getting a "perm."
Anyway, it also is not really a matter of whether a person's mother teaches her to see the best in people--but to your point my mother taught me to see the best in people as well, but when looking not to look through rose-colored glasses.
Last edited by Kilajo; 01-03-2013 at 04:50 PM.