Both of you have beautiful hair! And your hair is definitely not 'rough' as your mum described. I noticed that when my mum was dealing with my hair it was rough because we have totally different textures and although she meant well, blow drying a child's hair is bound to make it rough because it was left so dry!
Congratulations to you on your big chop (s). How do you make sure that you don't over condition the hair? I tried CG but after a great week, my hair went mushy and refused to dry. Do you sulphate shampoo every so often?