I think you got good advice from M and Korkscrew. I've really been where you are often! It can be complicated figuring out what works and it's very discouraging.
Sometimes - less is more. Less shampooing, less protein, less gel. Start with a good trim and a simple routine and keep a little diary of how your hair responds. That has helped me track my good hair days. Otherwise it becomes a roller coaster of products and methods and more combos of products and methods.
I still have bad hair days, sometimes bad hair weeks depending on the weather so I sympathize. I hope you find what works predictably for you.
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Experimenting with cones & sulfates while the dews are high. Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift