I like that you're obviously sensitive to the pain that this name calling generally causes, from a personal standpoint and otherwise But
I agree with what Anna just said, and what others are getting at:
A disparaging remark based on a physical feature associated with a particular ethnic group warrants attention and correction, because that type of remark is a step beyond a general
curl-bashing remark. I've had people disparage the "Jewish" nature of my curls. To me that's as racially tinged as someone slamming hair for looking like an afro. Sorry, those type of comments go beyond a generic curly-bashing comment and I'm grateful that people here spoke up about it.