Thanks for responding, even though I'm pretty late to reply
I don't use baking soda every day. I probably end up doing it twice a week. That part has been going alright for the past 6 months or so. I can try switching to a sulfate free shampoo now that there's more available that aren't so expensive. It just doesn't feel like that's the part I'm having problems with.
I've tried two different conditioners and each one I use just seems to sit in my hair after I've rinsed it out. Everything just feels really greasy. When I don't use a conditioner, things are just fine.
I'm trying the plopping thing. It looks nice, but it takes FOREVER. Trying to stick with that, but in winter it kinda blows.