Interesting post! This may sound mean but I think your mother is jealous of your hair. Every woman wants to be able to be natural and not have to work to straighten their hair everyday. Also, this society is always focused on stowing curly hair away and sleek and straight is the way to go. So it could be your mom is brainwashed in believing curly hair is just a mess.

My mom compliments my hair, my dad says straight hair is better. Idc it's my hair and they can seriously f off. At the end of the day, it's not the type of your hair that makes you it is the content of your character.
High Porosity, Fine, Thin Density, Low Elasticity
Co-wash, leave in, and gel: Alba botanica coconut cond., ogx mousse, &/or super wet look gel.
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