This is me. Hair nerding out.
Thanks to everyone who responded. It seems so much simpler now. I don't have any oils in my leave in (kinky curly knot today) so I'll just apply some after it. Check. And thank you aqua_lily for that wonderful list I can refer to! I already have some jojoba oil so I'm going to try it out tomorrow. I really like the idea of sealing. I think it may protect my porous hair from drying out in the arid California weather. Jojoba is probably also the best choice for me because heavier oils like olive or coconut are best reserved for deep conditioning in my experience. Also yes what you wrote makes sense. I want the oil to sit on top of the hair strand, not to penetrate it. If this works then maybe I can experiment with styling products with glycerine and protein again. I'm still not sure if those ingredients are drying me out so this could really help. Thanks guys! Curly love.