Thanks for the reply back. I'll check out shampoo/conditioner that has those qualities and work on the pillow case and putting her hair back at night. Does her night sleeping effect her hair throughout the whole day, or just how she wakes up with a messy head?
What could be the cause of the damaged hair? Not taking care of it the right way? I'm thinking of having her get another pixie cut, so we can start short and try to 'control' it this time while it grows in more healthy.