Are you trying full CG? Or mod? Full did not work for me, and doesn't for a lot of people. When I started going mod CG things got a lot better, fast!
The hunt for the right products is a PITA, too. I discovered that the technique is even more important. And you could use all the right products and not even know it because the technique is off.
Believe me, we've all had times where we've felt like you do right now!!
I'll try to post a pic this afternoon, once my boys are napping. (It's actually a day off for me today!!!)
2c/3a/3b, Fine/med, Dense, high porous, & normal elas.
Lo-poo - Renpure Keratin, SMR, Giovanni SaS
clarifying - mix Johnson's H2T with low poo
Co-wash - Suave Nats. clar. or coco.
RO - GVPCB, Ion Eff. Care, TN.
LI - SMR, Cure Care, or RO
Seal - MO or Jojoba
DT - + honey, ACV, & EVOO to SM masque & GVPCB
PT - Gelatin!, CNPF
Styling - FSG, AIF, BRHG, LALS/PS, GF curl spray gel, SM Souffle/Smoothie, LOOB
Oils - MO!, EVOO, jojoba, GSO, SM Elixer, EVCO, VO5 Hairdressing