I can only say that for me, relaxers didn't hold my hair well. It never stayed straight after the first wash... and it was like -ish frizzy waves (on a good day), if not a terrible puff ball (without my brushing it).
Actually, now that I think about it, because the relaxer was not very straightening, around the 3rd year transitioning, my hair was a 3b-ish pattern. Upon growing it ish completely out, it was basically 3c ringlets. And no, you can't predict your pattern usually until you have a least a few inches of growth. I have a lot of hair, and keep on growing more layers (it's weird like that), so my entire bottom layer while I was transitioning was 3c ringlets... which is how I knew it would end up...
And I wore my hair in pony tails, down, in braids, etc. Just be kind to the new hair that's growing in (I wasn't). Try to figure out what your hair likes, doesn't like, etc, and change that accordingly. You can wear anything you want to, just be mindful of what your hair likes and can handle.
Too much styling can damage the hair (like, consistent use of braids, and styles that pull the hair from your scalp), especially if it's not well-moisturized.
Which brings me to my next piece of advice:
Make sure to moisturize! Leave-ins will probably become your best friends. Granted, I hadn't really gone cone-free then, so my hair was kind of limp and very unhappy at me (It much prefers a CG/mod-CG regimen with no cones..)
Also, I thought this was fairly obvious, but transitioning does require you stop getting relaxers... Your hair will also be extremely try in that state (most likely), so definitely do a deep treatment (DT) ASAP.
Hair Type: 3c, Med-High Density, Low Porosity
CG since '09
Low Poo: KC Come Clean
Condish: AOHR, TN (Avocado), TJ Balancing Moisture
Leave in: GDL, KBB
Curl Lotion/Gel: CHS/CK
Others: CJ Curl Rehab, Jojoba Oil
Last edited by Sandi; 01-26-2013 at 10:28 AM.