It sounds like you are pretty set on using the relaxer but like most posters I wouldn't do it. Relaxers causes damage and since your hair seems to be a bit dry and frizzy you may already have some damage from the heat so why damage it further? If you get the relaxer and it damages your hair in the end you will be left with worse hair than before and it will take longer to restore your hair when you do decide that you want your hair to live up to its full potential.
It is possible for you to have shiny, healthy, soft curls but you need to follow some of the advice on here and start taking steps to have better hair. If I wanted my hair to look better I wouldn't be looking for a relaxer I would be looking for a healthy solution.

Last edited by Ericachristina; 01-27-2013 at 04:11 PM.