Great post, I agree with all of this. I will say that I'm really glad I came here and learned about being CG - there's so much I didn't know about protein/moisture, styling techniques, cutting techniques, treatments, etc. and I think thats why my hair was so crummy before - I was piling on silicones without doing regular DT's to get moisture in, using terry cloth towels, getting traditional straight cuts, flat-ironing, and so on. But now that I have so much more information, I feel like I can now use products that have silicones without worrying about damage because I know how to counteract it.
I would not say that being full CG *doesn't* work for me, per se, but if I can get better results being modified CG, or not CG at all, I'm maybe not so afraid to try other stuff anymore.
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010