Did you try to put leave ins on soaking wet hair (before remove the excess of water with the cloth)?
You can read my routine in my signature, i use few product, maybe you are still in search of your fav
You could need only 4 or 5 products:
1) light conditioner
2) heavy conditioner (with butter or oils in it)
3) mild shampoo
4) flax seed gel homemade
1) is for CW and for the styling, 2) for deep treatment and for styling, 3) to use once a week if you want and 4) for styling instead of gel and mousse.