I was going to comment that it sounds like your hair is over conditioned.
I also stay away from polyquats (and most chemicals for that matter.) I find that they coat my hair and cause frizz--even when wet.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me