I wasn't caring for my hair properly 10 years ago, but I can share what I've been using for the past 5 years.

Kinky Curly Knot Today and Curling Custard
Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose and White Camellia conditioners.

Products I've used for 2-4 years.
Joico K-Pak Reconstruct. Only in high dew points.
Kinky Curly Come Clean
Curl Junkie Curl Rehab

Products in the 1-2 year range that will probably go long haul.

Castor oil
Kiva! Microfinance works.

Med/Coarse, porous curly.