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Dusa covered most of it, but yes, SM = Shea Moisture. It's a brand available at Walgreens or target. (Also online at their websites, and at drugstore.com. Sally's also carries it online and in store.)
RO is indeed rinse out - it just means the conditioner you use the "traditional" way, rather than as a co-wash or leave-in.
Interesting that Dusa says it's protein free! I thought it had protein! (But I don't worry about that much bc my hair LOVES protein.)
GVP - she's right that is what it stands for, but it actually says "GVP" on the bottles.
Yes, mix the brown sugar with your co-wash, and massage as Dusa suggested!
If that's not enough you could add the baking soda and do the ACV (apple cider vinegar) rinse or additive.
Careful with the Dove conditioners, they tend to have a lot of silicones. Which is fine, of course, but some have trouble with them building up. If you are going with co-washing more often you may find some issues.
It really sounds as if protein may be an issue for your hair. I'd suggest cutting back on it and focusing on the moisture right now.
Hope that explains it better!
2c/3a/3b, Fine/med, Dense, high porous, & normal elas.
Lo-poo - Renpure Keratin, SMR, Giovanni SaS
clarifying - mix Johnson's H2T with low poo
Co-wash - Suave Nats. clar. or coco.
RO - GVPCB, Ion Eff. Care, TN.
LI - SMR, Cure Care, or RO
Seal - MO or Jojoba
DT - + honey, ACV, & EVOO to SM masque & GVPCB
PT - Gelatin!, CNPF
Styling - FSG, AIF, BRHG, LALS/PS, GF curl spray gel, SM Souffle/Smoothie, LOOB
Oils - MO!, EVOO, jojoba, GSO, SM Elixer, EVCO, VO5 Hairdressing