Okay I may have figured it out. I've been watching some YouTube videos and I noticed a trend. All the girls with my hair texture pre-pooed ( lol ) with coconut oil before they washed or co-washed. So I tried it. I used a small amount of coconut oil to detangle my hair. Left it in no more than it took to turn on the shower. I also added a lil suave coconut to areas that were dry looking. I then co washed and conditioned. I rinsed my hair upside down. I then applied my products. And Boom! Soft voluminous hair. Still more defined than I would like but I believe I can fix that by adding less product. I also scrunched the product into my hair instead of racking it in.
Please excuse my face. I have no makeup on. It's almost bedtime.