It is sad and I'm sorry for your experience. I think you are a leader for embracing your natural hair in the face of all that pressure
Right now there are more women than ever - mothers - who are learning to properly and pridefully treat their own curly hair AND their kids' curly hair. I expect a significant portion of the younger generation to have a healthier view of their curls than some of us did when we were young. Well, that's my hope anyway.