you are not alone!!
several times in the past we have asked for a separate forum for gray hair, but were denied. i think it's like before curlies were encouraged to go natural, people are unaccepting of the differences in gray hair.
i have found i need to use heavier conditioners, and something to seal my hair in low dew points. i've been using jane carter nourish & shine to seal, and it has made a tremendous difference this winter.
i, too, have straw-like hair around my face.
after i blot dry my hair, i add extra leave in to those spots and it has made a difference. another thing i will do is if seems dry i will add more conditioner (on dry hair) at night.
what product are you talking about that your salon wants you to use?
3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, leave in, protein tx
: curl junkie products. styling:curl junkie conditioners only at times, cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. trying ufdcm. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!! sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine