I totally agree with you loto! My husband is very supportive of me ,but sometimes when I tell him how people compliment me of my curly hair, he would say "did you tell them that you did put in efforts to get it to look that beautiful?" I dont blame him. I was not mad at him coz he was not harsh on me. He made me realize the fact.

We would love to see your pixie cut by the way
3a with some 2a-2c, Medium/Low Porosity
Co-wash:deva no-poo/Vo5 kiwi
Detangle:Suave
Leave-in:Shea Moisture/GVP conditioning Balm/AOHSR

Since long hair- I finger twist in big chunks, which helps till 5th day hair
Gel:LA sports
Plop: Old T-shirt for 15 minutes ,diffuse