Jeep, I don’t think RCC is saying you’re not entitled to your feelings on the matter. She’s just pointing out there is a context to words, our current society, that it might be helpful to be aware of. That’s all.
I do think your dictionary is out of date, however. It seriously says girl=woman? What’s the copyright on it? Dictionaries go out of date as language changes.
I could pull out a dictionary from 150 years ago and make some pretty strange assertions with it as my backup, know what I mean?
Calling one’s female love interest girl
or my girl
is increasingly rare. I cannot remember the last time I heard it used where it wasn’t being done so in jest. Eventually it will have the label “archaic” next to it in the dictionary and it will pass out of usage completely.
Good riddance, I say!
The first online dictionary I checked said this about it [II thought the usage note was especially interesting]: