By looking at your picture, I'd hazard two guesses. First, and foremost, it looks like you are using a lot of product to obtain the frizz free curls. It's weighing your hair down. Do you scrunch out the crunch and try to free your curls from your scalp?? You can use your fingers from the underside to try to do some of that to help. The other thing that might help is a haircut with layers to lighten things up.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; DM MiraCurls Curling Gelly; UFD Curly Magic; Shescentit LIs; Sevi conditioners; Botanical Spirits Puree, CJ Repair Me