For the record, the main reason this bothers me is not any of the ones discussed so far. It's the effort to try to impose a standard for Black beauty upon Black people. White people have those messed-up standards - we don't need them, and we don't need a Black beauty ideal.
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali