I'll second joseybird's As I Am cowash recommendation. It's great stuff. As far as conditioners go, have you tried any of the Aubrey line? I've found their Honeysuckle Rose to be a great rinse-out condish, and if your hair like protein, their GBP is awesome as well. For a leave-in, I like the Giovanni line.
Medium/coarse, low porosity, mix of 3s Low-poo: SM Moisture Retention
CG (again) since Nov. 2012
Co-wash: SM Conditioning Cleanser, VO5 Shea or Kiwi-Lime
Condish: AOHR, GVP Balm, Cure Care, Giovanni Direct
Protein: AOGPB, CNPF
Stylers: KCCC, SM Souffle, AOMM, SS CEJ, Deva ArcAngel
Trying out steaming!