Ah I hear your frustration! I had a bit of a bumpy start myself. Old habits die hard! It took a little bit of experimentation with different cg-friendly products to find the right combination for my scalp and my hair. Now that I've hit on it, it is so awesome! My hair routine is super quick and easy, and I really love how my hair is now. I'm lucky enough to get compliments too but really what matters is how I
feel about it
I'm not going to lie, it took a couple of months for my hair to get soft, fully rehydrated, and get a nice curl pattern (and that's not counting the time it took to find the right products). However, that time really paid off. I hope you are able to find the same results, and quicker than I did!