Is your hair thick or fine? Wavy, curly? I just ask because what may be soft hold for my thick dense 3c curls may be medium hold for your hair. I don't use mouse, but my sister likes Shea moistures mousse, doesnt hold at allll for me. Shea moistures curl & style milk works really great though. So does the thickening growth milk works really well though. Whay conditioner are you using? When I went CG, my hair was super dry b.c of the conditioners. GVP conditioning balm is the only conditioner that both moisturizes & has enough slip to detangle. A lot of ppl don't like it because its so thick, I find that if you put it in your hair & then rinse your hsnds & emuslify the conditioner with water, there is your slip.