SO HAPPY to have found this thread and to know I am not alone! I have been frying my hair with color and heat to please my fiance'. He is Spanish and always teases me about my hair. All of his girlfriends have had long straight or wavy Caucasian hair. He even nicknamed me "naps" because he thinks bi-racial or ethnic hair =NAPPY. I can never tell if he thinks he is funny or really means it He's the only person who doesn't like my curls... I've been getting so many compliments and other mixed women asking me about my hair, so I am inspired to show him that curly can be beautiful too... (considering HIS hair is quite curly too)