It is possible to dry your hair out with any type of surfactant--I find CJ Daily Fix drying if I use it more then ever few weeks. I do think you're over conditioned (although I didn't find the GVP Conditioning Balm very moisturizing.) Over conditioned hair is poofy and soft. Over proteined hair is poofy and hard.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix