I have no advice as all the other curlies have suggested but all I can say is my apologizes. I hope you can update us all on your progress from this mess. It hurts to know how rude Ms. Massey was, especially since her book is seen as a 'curly girl bible.' Once again, I am sorry and I hope all this for you means that in the end your hair will end up better than before.
High Porosity, Fine, Thin Density, Low Elasticity
Co-wash, leave in, and gel: Alba botanica coconut cond., ogx mousse, &/or super wet look gel.