I have not personally had that problem with Deva gels. However, I do the baptismal rinse, so I leave a lot of conditioner in my hair.
With extremely fine hair, I find that aloe vera gel gives me some hold. I like mixing it with a few drops of jojoba oil, which seems to make a difference in the amount of hold I get.
Some people complain that AVG acts like a protein on their hair, but with fine hair, that is not an issue for me. My hair needs protein.
Other gels which I particularly like are KCCC and Kiss My Face Upper Management.
Baby Fine 3B, low porosity, normal density and elasticity
CGing since July 2008