I can sympathize with you. My parents were similar. When I was a little younger than you my hair was 2b/c and someone taught me to put mousse in it. Looking back on it, it looked horrible! lol, but my mom used to say it looked horrible, and wet and I "didn't have curly hair, stop trying to make it look like that!" Now my hair is a good 2c/3a and my parents love it. But I needed to learn about it and how to care for it.
It was horrible. They never tried to comb it out for me, though. I hope that was in a joking manor, because if not, that is really disconcerting.
Rae ~ 2c/3a ~
"The Longer the Hair, the Bigger the Blob."
Porous, very dense but fine hair. Medium everything else.
Wife to a 3c Curly Guy
Mom to a straight and a curly.
CoWash: Tressemee naturals
RO: Generic biolage and generic joico k-pak
Miss Jessie's Pillow soft curls, diffuse 50%, add KCCC and diffuse to 80%.
Always wash upside down.