I feel you OP. It took quite sometime and dollars to get to my holy grails. But what I found is if I do a deep clarification before trying any new products and then giving the products at least a month to see how they work on my hair.
*Natural 3C/FroHawk*
Wash: BS/ACV, Bentonite Clay, KC Come Clean
Conditioner:
SM Raw SB
Pre-Poo: Oils & Honey Mix
DC: SM Raw SB DT Masque, AOHR

PT: Super Mayo Deep Conditioning Treatment
Styler:
KCCC, AVG
Leave-In: KCKT
Moisturizer: KBB SD Hair Cream
Oil/Sealant:
EVCO, EVOO, Whipped Shea Butter