I feel you OP. It took quite sometime and dollars to get to my holy grails. But what I found is if I do a deep clarification before trying any new products and then giving the products at least a month to see how they work on my hair.
*Natural 3C/TWA*
Wash: BS/ACV, KC Come Clean, Herb N' Life Royal Rinse
AIA Coconut Co-Wash, Organix Sea Minerals
Pre-Poo: Oils & Honey Mix
DC: Mixed Chicks, SM Manuka Honey Masque

PT: Super Mayo Deep Conditioning Treatment , Joico K-pak
AVG, LaBella Lots of Curls
Moisturizer: Oyin Whipped Pudding
Leave-In: KCKT