I feel you OP. It took quite sometime and dollars to get to my holy grails. But what I found is if I do a deep clarification before trying any new products and then giving the products at least a month to see how they work on my hair.
*Natural 3C/TWA*
Wash: BS/ACV, KC Come Clean
Conditioner: SM SB Restorative, Yucca & Baobab

Pre-Poo: Oils & Honey Mix
DC: SM Manuka Honey Masque, SM Yucca Masque
PT:
Super Mayo Deep Conditioning Treatment
Styler:
AVG, Oyin Burnt Sugar Pomade
Leave-In: KCKT, SM Yucca Milk
Oil/Sealant: Jojoba,
Avocado, EVCO, EVOO, JBCO