I feel you OP. It took quite sometime and dollars to get to my holy grails. But what I found is if I do a deep clarification before trying any new products and then giving the products at least a month to see how they work on my hair.
*Natural 3C/TWA*
Wash: BS/ACV, ABS, KC Come Clean
Conditioner: Garnier WB Honey Treasures
, Garnier WB Apple & Green Tea
Pre-Poo: Oils & Honey Mix
DC: Garnier WB Honey Treasures Mask, SM 10-N-1

PT: Super Mayo Deep Conditioning Treatment
Styler:
KCCC, Eco Styler
Leave-In: KCKT, Garnier WB Coconut & Cocoa Butter LI
Moisturizer:
Whipped Shea Butter
Oil/Sealant:
EVCO, Jojoba