I forgot to include in my first post that when we were dating, I told my exhusband that I had always wanted to be a foster parent (in addition to any bio children I might have). And he said he was Ok with that. And then he totally switched up on me after we got married. Our first one was unplanned and i had to plead w/ him for the second one and he was like hell no on the issue of foster kids. And I was so disgusted!
And mine switched up in other ways too that made marriage to him unbearable. And I think it is very unfair when anyone does that.
I think something happens to men in their 40s. Plenty of fine ass 40 year old men everywhere. But once they get to 50, they are like ughhhhhh old city! LOL But I hope my opinion on that changes. LOLOL