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Join Date: Oct 2012
Tuesday, March 26, 2013 at 05:52PM
Well you got a lot of good advice, I agree with the other posters you need to spend time doing some of the things you like to do, find hobbies that you like and if your hubby is interested he can participate too, but you should get out and live your life the way you want to; don't let your husband's age stop you from doing the things you enjoy.
Personally I think it's great to go out with friends but sometimes you want to do things with your husband and if you don't do anything together ....well I would be bothered by it too, I like to participate in life WITH my husband or else I wouldn't have bothered getting married.
My husband is 14 years older than me and we have been married for 3 years now. We actually love doing things together, we travel a lot and we share in each others interests he is definitely not a couch potato and neither am I. The kids topic has come up with us and when we first discussed it I was about 22 and wanted four kids, now at 29 I want to have two and see how I feel about more after that. He is older so he would like to have kids while he is still fairly young and I want to wait until I've travelled and done a few of the things Ive always wanted to do. We have agreed that we would wait since we both have established careers and would like to travel the world together. You have to communicate and try to compromise the best you can.
I don't agree with the fact that you were wrong for changing your mind about having kids, you are human and sometimes people change their minds, that's just how life is sometimes, decisions you make for your life do not have to be set in stone and if it is something you don't agree on anymore then you have to decide what's best for you. Just because you changed your mind about the kids doesn't necessarily mean you have to now live without the experience of being a mother because he doesn't want them. It is up to you to decide if you want to have the chance to have kids or if you can be happy with the way things are...you don't have to settle, just do what is best for you and what makes you happy because having kids is a pretty huge thing to just settle on if you no longer agree.
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