Myrna, in the summer I use CK (or actually "personal lubricant" now but it's got identical ingredients) straight out of the shower (and after I put in my leave-in), then I plop for about 5-10 minutes, then I do my gel/diffusing/what have you. CK alone doesn't have quite enough hold for me either, but adding one gel (LALSG) afterwards gave some extra hold without ruining the effects of the CK.

I stopped using the CK because we have crazy low dews right now and my hair doesn't seem to like it in the dry winter air, but I'll be adding it back as soon as it warms up a bit (IF it ever warms up!!).

2c/3a, fine, low porosity.

Poo: Garnier Fructis Pure Clean (yes, it has A Sulfate!!, but I have Teflon hair)
Co-wash (when I feel so inclined, which isn't often!): VO5 Kiwi Lime Clarifying Conditioner
same for both -- whatever I have in the shower at the time (I experiment a lot)
Style: EcoStyler Olive Oil <3
Dry: Diffuse or air dry, or both...depends on my mood